Monday, November 4, 2013

My latest new normality

So then, here we are a month after my last post, another new normality to adjust to! Ma is now going to be  a permanent fixture in my house/ life, with me looking after her. How lucky am I.
I have decided its best not to overthink or analyse how I feel about this, as the result would most definitely not be good for my mental health.
Conversations with Ma are unlike any I have with anyone else. We went to a disability aids shop last week to pick up a few things. I saw some lovely fur lined slippers I thought would be good for her. No, says she, I'm not trying them on, they do up with that sticky stuff and I want a zip. Let's just try them I say. What size madam? Asks the very helpful man. Well I'm a 4 so I take a 5 says she. The man and I look at each other, I shrug, he brings a 5. They're too big she says indignantly. That's because your feet measure a 4 I dare to suggest. But I wear a 5 she says. A heated discussion followed, a pair of size 4 slippers are ordered and the man and I go our separate ways to have breakdowns.
Of course, I have all the notifying change of address stuff etc to do, because running up and down stairs all day and keeping to a timetable with meals is not enough for me to do. One poor girl had the misfortune to speak to her on her mobile about her previous addresses. Ma couldn't remember the postcode etc,and when the girl continued to question her she told her to "speak to my daughter about these things, I don't know anything"!
We have now invested in a lightweight wheelchair that I can actually lift in and out of the car without nearly breaking my back. I call it Wally. Her zimmer is known by me as Gidgy. I get some funny looks when we are out and I refer to them by their names. Why not? People often give their car a name, so why not other pieces of kit?
Today was a beautiful sunny day after a crisp frost. We went for a walk along the Stone Jetty with Wally. Oh,she says, imagine living somewhere with all this on your doorstep to have a walk in. You do,I reply through gritted teeth.

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